What about… #20

Is cruelty part of the human nature?

I’ve finished reading the last book of Robin Hobb called Assassin’s Fate, which is the third book of the Fitz and the Fool triology about two weeks ago. And personally I hated a character named Dwalia for her cruelty upon a 10 year old girl (among other victims) and her hartless nature . This Dwalia made me think of all those human beings who suffered and still do by the hands of other beings. 

We all know the story of Cain and Abel, mentioned in the Holy Scripures. The Bible “Genesis”  4.2-16 tells us:

Now Abel kept flocks, and Cain worked the soil. 3 In the course of time Cain brought some of the fruits of the soil as an offering to the LORD. 4 And Abel also brought an offering—fat portions from some of the firstborn of his flock. The LORD looked with favor on Abel and his offering, 5 but on Cain and his offering he did not look with favor. So Cain was very angry, and his face was downcast. 6 Then the LORD said to Cain, “Why are you angry? Why is your face downcast? 7 If you do what is right, will you not be accepted? But if you do not do what is right, sin is crouching at your door; it desires to have you, but you must rule over it.” 8 Now Cain said to his brother Abel, “Let’s go out to the field.” While they were in the field, Cain attacked his brother Abel and killed him. 9 Then the LORD said to Cain, “Where is your brother Abel?” “I don’t know,” he replied. “Am I my brother’s keeper?” 10 The LORD said, “What have you done? Listen! Your brother’s blood cries out to me from the ground. 11 Now you are under a curse and driven from the ground, which opened its mouth to receive your brother’s blood from your hand. 12 When you work the ground, it will no longer yield its crops for you. You will be a restless wanderer on the earth.” 13 Cain said to the LORD, “My punishment is more than I can bear. 14 Today you are driving me from the land, and I will be hidden from your presence; I will be a restless wanderer on the earth, and whoever finds me will kill me.” 15 But the LORD said to him, “Not so ; anyone who kills Cain will suffer vengeance seven times over.” Then the LORD put a mark on Cain so that no one who found him would kill him. 16 So Cain went out from the LORD’s presence and lived in the land of Nod, east of Eden.

And in the Quran in the chapter “TheTable” 5: 27-32

27. And relate to them the true story of Adam’s two sons: when they offered an offering, and it was accepted from one of them, but it was not accepted from the other. He Said, “I will kill you.” He Said, “God accepts only from the righteous.”

28. “If you extend your hand to kill me, I will not extend my hand to kill you; for I fear God, Lord of the Worlds.”

29. “I would rather you bear my sin and your sin, and you become among the inmates of the Fire. Such is the reward for the evildoers.”

30. Then His soul prompted him to kill his brother, so he killed him, and became one of the losers.

31. Then God sent a raven digging the ground, to show him how to cover his brother’s corpse. He said, “Woe to me! I was unable to be like this raven, and bury my brother’s corpse.” So he became full of regrets.

32. Because of that We ordained for the Children of Israel: that whoever kills a person—unless it is for murder or corruption on earth—it is as if he killed the whole of mankind; and whoever saves it, it is as if he saved the whole of mankind. Our messengers came to them with clarifications, but even after that, many of them continue to commit excesses in the land.

We know the torture that was inflicted on thousands of people in the middle age, i.e burned, chopped, hanged, drowned… it’s almost the same today, but in hidden places where no one witness their atrocities (prisons, rituals, laws)

Some people enjoy seeing a person in pain, but why?  Is it a psychological disorder? Or do they feel more powerful? Here is what I’ve found on Wikipedia: Torture has been carried out or sanctioned by individuals, groups, and states throughout history from ancient times to modern day, and forms of torture can vary greatly in duration from only a few minutes to several days or longer. Reasons for torture can include punishment, revenge, political re-education, deterrence, coercion of the victim or a third party, interrogation to extract information or a confession irrespective of whether it is false, or simply the sadistic gratification of those carrying out or observing the torture. In other cases, the torturer may be indifferent to the condition of the victim. Alternatively, some forms of torture are designed to inflict psychological pain or leave as little physical injury or evidence as possible while achieving the same psychological devastation. The torturer may or may not kill or injure the victim, but sometimes torture results in a deliberate death and serves as a form of capital punishment. Depending on the aim, even a form of torture that is intentionally fatal may be prolonged to allow the victim to suffer as long as possible (such as half-hanging).

Research during the past 60 years, starting with the Milgram experiment, suggests that under the right circumstances, and with the appropriate encouragement and setting, most people can be encouraged to actively torture others.

John Conroy:

“When torture takes place, people believe they are on the high moral ground, that the nation is under threat and they are the front line protecting the nation, and people will be grateful for what they are doing.”

Unfortunately the human being is really complex, we can find the most kind and the most evil in the same city. And the worst of all is that, the first impression someone takes isn’t always what it is. We can’t judge a person by its garments. There is so much evil in this world that I personally don’t trust easily the people I meet. Probably most of us are good, but in this planet where the big fish eats the small one, it’s best to stay focused, so that we don’t get eaten easily. Probably it’s mean of me to think that way,  but it is the way I see the world. I believe that we all lack of Innocence, since our first father and mother, but the difference between us is who strives for the greater good and who doesn’t.

What about…. #16

My faith doesn’t prevent me from being what I want to be

For those who are not yet aware of my religion, I’m a muslim.
Unfortunately Islam is stigmatized by some for being a religion of war, anti feminism,  dressing everyone in black,  or even of hate. Which is totally absurd. Those clichés were invented by people who have little knowledge about the Islamic faith.

To tell you the truth, some muslims have bestowed these clichés upon themselves; traditions, misunderstanding, hate and dictatorship have turned some believers into rebels who wish to enhance their belief into something that never existed before.

Let me explain: Me for instance, I’ve never worn a headscarf, I’ve never been dressed in black, I wear short skirts and bright colors, I wear make-up everyday; even on Sundays and that doesn’t prevent me from being a muslim. Does it? Of course not. The Quran isn’t a Cosmopolitan magazine suggesting what to wear and how to use make-up. It teaches us how to behave, to learn, to seek knowledge, to help those in need, to respect everyone; whatsoever its religion, to do the best of ourselves for our sake and those around us, to explore, to invent, to teach, to make peace, to respect the woman and to give her her rights, to respect the orphans and to help them till their adulthood, to stop saying bad things, to give charity; whatsoever its faith…. I can’t make a list of all the good that the Quran teaches us. So all of the mischiefs and crimes committed in the name of a religion, were all made by human beings who wanted to support their actions by introducing God as their mentor. How diabolic this is? 

Here follows a few pictures found online about how muslim women or men dress in different cultures.

Look at the way the headscarf is worn, most of the Turkish women wear them like this.

In Malaysia women wear short sleeves while it is forbidden in other countries.

In Morocco you can see this kind

And that kind.

Now you might have seen this in your country

While famous people are not less muslim.

The way you dress has nothing to do with your faith, you could wear a monk’s robe and be a thief. Your actions, your inner belief makes of you, who you are; a person, a human being belonging to a certain religion which only God can judge. Some Christians or Deists are more Muslims than some born such as. The early Christians didn’t have the same belief as the people do now, they were closer to Jesus’ teaching back then, so they were more monotheist.

So Islam doesn’t stop anybody from being what he/she wants to be. The believer is free to do whatever she/he wants as long as it’s not evil. 

Featured: Aunt Debbie / Title: Aunt Debbie’s advice to younger generation

I know, I know. The younger generations have never been good at taking advice from older people. I refused to take my mother’s advice, my mother refused to take her mother’s advice, and the list goes on. The older generations always know a thing or two, even if the younger folk won’t admit it!

Much of this list is based on my own experiences and some are things I wish I would have learned long before I did. I guess that’s life, though. We don’t get instructions on how to live it. We are taught some things by our parents but much is a game of trial and error. We learn as we go.

Here’s my advice to the younger generations.

Ask questions. Question everything. Learn everything you can. Don’t reject new ideas because they are different than you believe.

Be curious about everything and think for yourself.

Be respectful of others and their opinions. How can you expect others to respect you and your opinions if you don’t show them the same?

Stay away from drugs. They will NOT make anything better. They will make things worse, guaranteed.

Don’t plaster your face with tons of makeup. Makeup should enhance your natural beauty, not cover it up. Besides, it really looks bad.

Don’t be a bully! Everyone deserves to be accepted for who they are. Everyone wants (and needs) to be cared for. Everyone is worthy!

Choose your own spiritual/religious path. Don’t worry if no one else gets it. It’s not their path. It’s yours.

Nurture your creativity. Pursue hobbies. Try new things.

You can’t fix stupid; unless it’s you. Refer to #1. Keep learning, always!Adapt. Changes can be awesome!

Take advantage of opportunities. They may not come around again.

Learn how to resolve conflict without anger and violence.

Always try to see things from another person’s perspective.

Keep your mind open.

Don’t be lazy. Talent is not enough if you aren’t willing to work hard.

Learn to cook! It’s much healthier than buying processed meals or eating out.

Be responsible. Pay your bills on time. Go to work. Clean your house. Wash your car. Feed the dog. Take care of your responsibilities!

It’s ok to admit when you’re wrong. It happens. Admit it and move on.

Skip the credit cards. It will be too easy to use them and too easy for it to get out of hand. Next thing you know, you’re in debt and can’t pay your bills.

Be generous. Give your time. Donate. Help others. It feels good to be helpful.

Don’t be stupid and land yourself in jail. It will suck for you! Obey the law!Save money. Learn to manage money effectively. It’s ok to splurge now and then, but it’s never too early to start saving for the future.

Do your homework – and not just school homework. Learn everything you can about a topic before you start an argument with someone and find out how wrong you really are!

Don’t flaunt yourself/your body. A little modesty goes a long way.

Guard your health. You will get older someday. Use sunscreen. Don’t smoke. Drink alcohol in moderation. Exercise. Brush your teeth. Eat healthy foods.

Don’t do drugs.

Wear your seatbelt!

Take time each day just for you. Take a bath, a walk, or read a book. Do something that makes you happy. Make yourself a priority as you do with others.

If you have pets, take care of them. Have them spayed or neutered. Take them to the vet when they are sick. Don’t leave them behind when you move. Don’t dump them when you can’t afford to feed them anymore. They depend on you to care for them. Do it.

Never give up – Not on love, friendships, education, health.

Listen to music! Experience different genres of music. You might find you like more than you think.

It’s ok to cry. Don’t let anyone make you feel weak because you need to cry. It’s healthy and normal.

Teach your children to look with their eyes, not their hands. You will have less conflict while shopping and in other people’s homes!

Be honest and trustworthy.

Don’t blame others. Don’t make excuses.

Laugh at yourself. It’s easier and feels better than beating yourself up.

Meet new people, try new things!

Listen more, talk less. Know when to keep your mouth shut.

Return everything you borrow.Don’t live to impress others.

Pay attention to the little things; sunsets, sunrises, children’s giggles, freshly cleaned clothes, petting a cat, the smell of popcorn, a good movie, birds chirping, etc.

Be grateful for everything. Don’t worry about what you don’t have.Be on time!

Have good manners.

Learn from your mistakes.

Don’t become financially dependent on anyone!

Live a simple life and let go of the bullshit.

Do you have any advice for the younger generation? Leave your advice in the comments!

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